Step 15 How Long Should You Wait Before You Have Sex with Someone

Step 15 How Long Should You Wait Before You Have Sex with Someone 

So, you've met someone that you like a lot, the two of you have started spending time together, going on dates, and maybe even done some smooching. You really like this person and you are very attracted to them physically and emotionally. It's only natural that at this point you probably want to have sex with this person you are dating, but you're uncertain of how long you should wait before you have sex with them. Well, I hope you at least are.

There's really no magic length of time that is right to wait before you have sex with someone you are dating, but as a general rule, the longer the better (just not too, too long). Studies have actually shown that couples who wait longer to have sex with each other have longer, more meaningful relationships than couples who jump right into the sack. Who'd a thunk it?

It really should come as no surprise. If you have sex with someone within the first week or few days of meeting them, you really barely know this person. So you are not really having sex with them, per se, you are having sex with their body. Odds are, that after a few more weeks or months, you're going to really get to know this person, find out you don't like them very much (let alone love them) and just end up regretting having sex with them.

If you are currently dating someone that you think you might have a chance of being with for a long time, you should wait about 2 - 3 months before you decide to have sex with them. You want to ensure that you build your relationship upon something more than just sex if you really want to be with someone for a long time. If you spend a few months getting to know each other, and not just having sex, it will be easier for the both of you to determine whether or not you are right for each other. If you just hop right into bed with them at the start of the relationship, your judgment will be clouded. As soon as the sex starts to get old, you may start to realize that they just aren't right for you, but by then it's too late.

On the other, you shouldn't wait years before you have sex with someone. That can cause a whole other set of problems. You may decide that you're ready to spend the rest of your life with a person you have been dating for years, but then have sex with them for the first time and not enjoy it at all. Now you've just wasted years of your life with someone that will probably never workout. It's sad but true. If the sex is not enjoyable, the relationship won't last.

So, if you're looking to play it safe, wait a few months, but definitely don't wait more than a year before you have sex with someone you are dateing